Friday, June 13, 2014

Finding a man

Sylvia plate wrote that she would never be able to find a man because no one could love her like her father did. For me it's the opposite. I will never be able to find a man because I fear all will be exactly like my dad and I don't want to end up like my mum. That is the sad truth.

Friday, May 23, 2014

Just got worse

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I didn't think it could get worse but it did. My boss sent me the the receive of revenue to submit an application, I didnt have one of the documents and he started shouting. I starting crying and begging them to accept the application. It is so embarrassing.

It is like he has developed this negative attitude about me looking for any excuse to get mad. I am waiting for him to pounce.

I loved my job but now it is just getting worse. I have been through this twice before and I am not going to do this again. I rather just leave and do something else.

Being this sad is too much, doubting myself and being scared all the time of making a mistake is so tiring.


Thursday, May 22, 2014

Problems at work again

I am cursed. Every two years when i am happy at my job my boss turns on me. This time he said i am not polite in my emails.i broke down and cried. At my last job the problem was i wasn't neat. Now I'm not polite. Truth is i am rude. He is right. I don't want to  change.

I have allowed another person to dictate my self worth again. The only difference from the previous times is that before i believed in myself without a shadow of a doubt. I knew that the other person was wrong and i was right. I fought and defended myself but now i have lost the ability to fight. 

I don't want to look for another job.  But the same thing will happen again. I may not have a choice. I am constantly anxious at work and i know if i make any mistake they gonna nail me. It the same thing that happened before over and over.

I feel useless. I feel incompetent.  I don't have a boyfriend. I am not a social butterfly but i always had my intelligence and now it is in question again.

I am stupid and i wish i had money so i didn't have to work. Stupidity should be a disability.

My whole life I had problems with my boss and i thought that shit was over but guess not. I'm sad confused and i feel like I have no reason to exist.

Sunday, September 15, 2013

Dorothy Parker Poetry - Heartbreak

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A Very Short Song
Someone left me sad-
Broke my brittle heart in two;
And that is very bad.
Love is for unlucky folk,
Love is but a curse.
Once there was a heart I broke;
And that, I think, is worse.
Love is for unlucky folk,
Love is but a curse.
Once there was a heart I broke;
And that, I think, is worse. 



Autumn Valentine
In May my heart was breaking-
 Oh, wide the wound, and deep!
And bitter it beat at waking,
 And sore it split in sleep.
And when it came November,
 I sought my heart, and sighed,
"Poor thing, do you remember?"
 "What heart was that?" it cried.
A Portrait
A little here, and then a little there-
What use are any words of mine to swear
My heart is stubborn, and my spirit slow
Of weathering the drip and drive of woe?
What is my oath, when you have but to bare
My little, easy loves; and I can dare
Only to shrug, and answer, "They are so"?
You do not know how heavy a heart it is
That hangs about my neck- a clumsy stone
Cut with a birth, a death, a bridal-day.
Each time I love, I find it still my own,
Who take it, now to that lad, now to this,
Seeking to give the wretched thing away.
You do not know how heavy a heart it is
That hangs about my neck- a clumsy stone
Cut with a birth, a death, a bridal-day.
Each time I love, I find it still my own,
Who take it, now to that lad, now to this,
Seeking to give the wretched thing away. 



Afternoon
And done with this desire,
With Memory to share my bed
And Peace to share my fire,
I'll comb my hair in scalloped bands
Beneath my laundered cap,
And watch my cool and fragile hands
Lie light upon my lap.

And I will have a sprigged gown
With lace to kiss my throat;
I'll draw my curtain to the town,
And hum a purring note.

And I'll forget the way of tears,
And rock, and stir my tea.
But oh, I wish those blessed years
Were further than they be!
I'll comb my hair in scalloped bands
Beneath my laundered cap,
And watch my cool and fragile hands
Lie light upon my lap.
And I will have a sprigged gown
With lace to kiss my throat;
I'll draw my curtain to the town,
And hum a purring note.


One Perfect Rose
A single flow'r he sent me, since we met.All tenderly his messenger he chose;Deep-hearted, pure, with scented dew still wet -One perfect rose.
I knew the language of the floweret;'My fragile leaves,' it said, 'his heart enclose.'Love long has taken for his amuletOne perfect rose.
Why is it no one ever sent me yetOne perfect limousine, do you suppose?Ah no, it's always just my luck to getOne perfect rose.


Marilyn Monroe Quotes

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I guess I have always been deeply terrified to really be someone’s wife since I know from life one cannot love another, ever, really.

I knew I belonged to the public and to the world, not because I was talented or even beautiful, but because I had never belonged to anything or anyone else.

The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.

Give a girl the right shoes and she can conquer the world.

Your clothes should be tight enough to show you are a woman, but lose enough to show you’re a lady.

Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.

If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything

It's better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone

I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves. They didn't bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn't argue with them. They were obviously loving somebody I wasn't.

I want to grow old without facelifts. I want to have the courage to be loyal to the face I have made.
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Friday, July 5, 2013

I was given a heart but I wish to return it, it retains my pain and distills my joy. The platlets are narrowing and the veins are melting. Please may I get a refund.
Take Care

Friday, June 7, 2013

I like the way a poem starts of as an idea then gets completely transformed into something wonderfully different from what you intended it to be. That is creativity at its best
Take Care

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

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WON THE AMA BOOKS PEACE COMPETITION



Peace
Coarse sand
settles on skin
like faux fur
on soft hands

Zephyr of dust
pirouettes through the air
As mortars whistle in the distance
Absorbing the sounds of hunger and despair

Worms festering
in outstretched bellies
Care not for who owns whose land

In the fight for power and control
Victory parades
surrender its grandeur
Amongst dead souls

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

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Brilliance of Sylvia Plath

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Webbhotell Top Blogs So i have decided to focus on free-verse, because that doesn’t have rules and i am anti-rules. And during my online shopping for books i saw collections of poetry on Sylvia Plath, she is one of my favourite poets and started reading more into her life, she dies when she was 30, she was so brilliant, basically cheated of a life, I mourn her death (which is strange cause i normally don’t care if a person is dead, even if you family, i suppress the grief) Her poetry was brilliant and had so much more to contribute to the literary world. Her poems are hauntingly sad to me.


One thing that did catch my attention is her ex husband Ted Hughes,  I feel that he made money of a woman that he abandoned and didn’t love completely, who is he to arrange her poems into collections and profit off her hard work. It’s just wrong. I dont like what he did, i am not sure if he ever really loved her for all her faults and truly appreciated her talent when she was alive. It is said that she killed herself because of his adultery, he is the cause of her being found with her head in an oven, yet he makes books out of her work.

Like everything she did, she “died exceptionally well”



Below my favourite poem

“Mad Girl's Love Song




I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead;

I lift my lids and all is born again.

(I think I made you up inside my head.)



The stars go waltzing out in blue and red,

And arbitrary blackness gallops in:

I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead.



I dreamed that you bewitched me into bed

And sung me moon-struck, kissed me quite insane.

(I think I made you up inside my head.)



God topples from the sky, hell's fires fade:

Exit seraphim and Satan's men:

I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead.



I fancied you'd return the way you said,

But I grow old and I forget your name.

(I think I made you up inside my head.)



I should have loved a thunderbird instead;

At least when spring comes they roar back again.

I shut my eyes and all the world drops dead.

(I think I made you up inside my head.)”

― Sylvia Plath


Monday, November 7, 2011

Dale Carnegie - Quotes

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Dale Carnegie



Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

Dale Carnegie



Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire.

Dale Carnegie



It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.

Dale Carnegie



Men of age object too much, consult too long, adventure too little, repent too soon, and seldom drive business home to the full period, but content themselves with a mediocrity of success.

Dale Carnegie



Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.

Dale Carnegie



Most of us have far more courage than we ever dreamed we possessed.

Dale Carnegie



One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.

Dale Carnegie



Only the prepared speaker deserves to be confident.

Dale Carnegie



Our fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.

Dale Carnegie



People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.

Dale Carnegie



Remember happiness doesn't depend upon who you are or what you have; it depends solely on what you think.

Dale Carnegie



Speakers who talk about what life has taught them never fail to keep the attention of their listeners.

Dale Carnegie



Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.

Dale Carnegie



Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare.

Dale Carnegie



Tell the audience what you're going to say, say it; then tell them what you've said.

Dale Carnegie



The essence of all art is to have pleasure in giving pleasure.

Dale Carnegie



The expression a woman wears on her face is far more important than the clothes she wears on her back.

Dale Carnegie



The ideas I stand for are not mine. I borrowed them from Socrates. I swiped them from Chesterfield. I stole them from Jesus. And I put them in a book. If you don't like their rules, whose would you use?

Dale Carnegie



The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

Dale Carnegie





Friday, November 4, 2011

Poetry collection about Depression, Love, Anger and Hate

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As an Indian in South Africa, I come from a very religious, traditional family. And my relationship with my family is an important aspect of my life. With depression my outlook on life, my patterns of thinking all began to change and this was not acceptable. So the struggles to be true to myself and satisfy them have been long and seemingly never ending.



I hope after reading my poetry you will feel a sense of comfort in knowing that you are not alone in your sadness or, alternatively, think I am just a selfish, crazy mental patient who needs intense psychiatric help. Either way, read it and enjoy.



Motivational Quotes

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-Eleanor Roosevelt



Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and only by this meeting that a new world is born.

Anais Nin



When a friend is in trouble, don't annoy him by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and do it.

Edgar Watson Howe



Happiness is never stopping to think if you are.

Palmer Sondreal



If only we'd stop trying to be happy we could have a pretty good time.

Edith Wharton



Happiness is always a by-product. It is probably a matter of temperament, and for anything I know it may be glandular. But it is not something that can be demanded from life, and if you are not happy you had better stop worrying about it and see what treasures you can pluck from your own brand of unhappiness.

Robertson Davies



Those who can laugh without cause have either found the true meaning of happiness or have gone stark raving mad.

Norm Papernick





What a wonderful life I've had! I only wish I'd realized it sooner.

Colette



The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet.

James Openheim



Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn't know you left open.

John Barrymore



People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they're not on your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost.

H. Jackson Browne



Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.

Margaret Young



There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want; and after that, to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.

Logan Pearsall Smith, Afterthoughts, 1931



Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.

Nathaniel Hawthorne



We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.



Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.

Henry Ford



Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.

Les Brown



One half of knowing what you want is knowing what you must give up before you get it.

Sidney Howard



Some of the world's greatest feats were accomplished by people not smart enough to know they were impossible.

Doug Larson



If you want to make your dreams come true, the first thing you have to do is wake up.

J.M. Power



Life's problems wouldn't be called "hurdles" if there wasn't a way to get over them.

Author Unknown



Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.

Author Unknown



Between the great things we cannot do and the small things we will not do, the danger is that we shall do nothing.

Adolph Monod



Don't say you don't have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein. ~



Life is full of obstacle illusions.

Grant Frazier



Fear knocked at the door. Faith answered. And lo, no one was there.



To me faith means not worrying. John Dewey



He who has faith has... an inward reservoir of courage, hope, confidence, calmness, and assuring trust that all will come out well - even though to the world it may appear to come out most badly.

B.C. Forbes



Faith enables persons to be persons because it lets God be God.

Carter Lindberg



Faith can move mountains, but don't be surprised if God hands you a shovel.



Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.

Thomas à Kempis, Imitation of Christ, c.1420



Remember, if you’re headed in the wrong direction, God allows U-turns!

Allison Gappa Bottke



God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.



Just remember, there's a right way and a wrong way to do everything and the wrong way is to keep trying to make everybody else do it the right way.

M*A*S*H, Colonel Potter



Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

M. Kathleen Casey



If you're going through hell, keep going.

Winston Churchill



We have no right to ask when sorrow comes, "Why did this happen to me?" unless we ask the same question for every moment of happiness that comes our way.

Author Unknown



I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much.

Mother Teresa



Some luck lies in not getting what you thought you wanted but getting what you have, which once you have got it you may be smart enough to see is what you would have wanted had you known.

Garrison Keillor



If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.

Mary Engelbreit



Convert difficulties into opportunities, for difficulties are divine surgeries to make you better.

Author Unknown



Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It's the transition that's troublesome.

Isaac Asimov



Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.

John Lennon



There's no secret about success. Did you ever know a successful man who didn't tell you about it?

Kin Hubbard



The secret of success is sincerity. Once you can fake that you've got it made.

Jean Giraudoux



You desire to know the art of living, my friend? It is contained in one phrase: make use of suffering.

Henri-Frédéric Amiel

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.

Helen Keller

The art of being wise is knowing what to overlook.

William James

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.

Helen Keller

In the hopes of reaching the moon men fail to see the flowers that blossom at their feet.

Albert Schweitzer

Action may not always bring happiness;

but there is no happiness without action.

Benjamin Disraeli

Nothing is predestined: The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.

Ralph Blum



You cannot change what others think but can only change your reaction to it



“when I was young nothing could hold me back, no sir I thought I could change the world, it took me a hundred years to figure out I cant change the world I can only change Bessie and honey that aint easy either

Bessie Dealaney



Everything that happens, happens as it should and if you observe carefully you will find this to be so.

Mark Aurelius



The tragedy of life is not in the fact of death but in what dies inside of you while you live,

Norman Cousins



My life is full of misfortunes most of which has never happened.

Mark Twain



Advise is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t

Eleanor Roosevelt



A man said to the universe sir I exist, however replied the universe that fact has not created in me a sense of obligation

Stephen Crane



I believe that when all dreams are dead you are left only with yourself, you better like yourself a lot.



Betrand Russell suffered the tortures of the damned each time he was called upon for a speech until one day he said to himself what difference does it make in the grand scheme of things if Bertrand Russell makes a good or poor speech? It would be of no world shaking importance, history would go unchanged.

Betrand Russel



No one can make you feel inferior without your consent

Eleanor Roosvelt





Ones philosophy is not best expressed in words, it is expressed in the choices one makes and in the long run we shape our lives and we shape ourselves the process never ends until we die, and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility

Eleanor Roosvelt





Friday, October 14, 2011

Quotes - Suicide




I don't know what I want in life. I don't know what I want right now. All I know is that I'm hurting so much inside that it's eating me, and one day, there won't be any of me left.

It's the loneliest feeling in the world - to find yourself standing up when everyone else is sitting down. To have everybody look at you and say "what's the matter with her?" I know what it feels like. Walking down an empty street, listening to the sound of your own footsteps. Shutters closed, blinds drawn, doors locked against you. And you aren't sure whether you're walking toward something, or if you're just walking away.

You start life with a clean slate. Then you begin to make your mark. You face decisions, make choices. You keep moving forward. But sooner or later there comes a time where you look back over where you have been and wonder who you really are.

I know it seems like I'm this strong person who can get though anything, but inside I'm fragile. I've had so many things thrown at me, and each one has only made a crack. What I'm afraid of is shattering.

I love sleep. My life has this tendency to fall apart when I'm awake.

I know what its like to want to die; how it hurts to smile; how you try to fit in but you can't; how you hurt yourself on the outside; to try to kill the thing that's in the inside.

Even the people who never frown eventually breakdown.

How can you understand me when I can't understand myself?

I hate what I have become to escape what I hated being.

It's like I realized that way down inside, I've always been lonely for something. But I don't know what for. It's like everybody in the world want's something. Only they never really know exactly what it is - they just keep finding out what it's not. You know how, when you turn off the TV or you come out of some concert, and everything just feels empty? Like you thought that would be what you wanted, and then it wasn't?

Do you ever have those times you cry and you don't know why?

People are always telling me to smile, like smiling is going to just take away all the hurt and pain. Well I've tried that I've tried hiding my sorrows and covering the sadness in smiles and what I've learned is that when it hurts this much inside your heart always has a way of showing it no matter how many masks you wear.

Her sadness did not have that. It dripped slowly into her life without her noticing it, at least, not noticing it until it consumed her fully and smothered her with darkness.

I quit, I give up, nothing's good enough for anybody else, it see... when Im all alone it's best way to be. When I'm by myself nobody else can say good-bye. Everything is temporary anyway.

Everybody's searching for a hero. People need someone to look up to. I never found anyone who fulfilled my need... a lonely place to be, and so I learned to depend on me.

Some of us are just trying to get through the day without falling apart.

Every night before I go to sleep I lie on my bed and stare up at my blank walls. I try to imagine the future, but right now it's as blank as those walls. All I can see is a past that I barely recognize any more.

I don't want the world to see me, because I don't think that they'd understand.

Someone once asked me, 'Why do you always insist on taking the hard road?' I replied, 'Why do you assume I see two roads?'

Wear a mask that grins and lies, it hides our cheeks and shades our eyes. The debt we pay to human guile, with torn and broken hearts, we smile.

Sometimes I feel like nobody has held me down and forced me to cry or made me hug them, or seen to the inside of me. I just say 'oh I'm fine' and walk away. Nobody's ever said to me 'no you're not'.

Do you ever get that feeling where you don't want to talk to anybody? You don't want to smile and you don't want to fake being happy. But at the same time you don't know exactly what's wrong either. There isn't a way to explain it to someone who doesn't already understand. If you could want anything in the world it would be to be alone. People have stopped being comforting and being along never was. At least when you're alone no one will constantly ask you what is wrong and there isn't anyone who won't take 'I don't know' for an answer. You feel the way you do just because. You hope the feeling will pass soon and that you will be able to be yourself again, but until then all you can do is wait.

You never know when you wake up, if all will be the same, or if you'll be back in your dark place, again to feel the pain.

No one can see the pain what we hide, they're happy for us to keep it inside, our fear is our own; they don't want to know. Why should we involve them; why should it show.

Our generation has had no Great war, no Great Depression. Our war is spiritual. Our depression is our lives.

I'm not my usual self being quiet and lonely isn't 'me' crying all night, acting all day this isn't how it's supposed to be.

I'm hurting so bad inside I just wish you could see... I'm struggling to be someone that isn't even close to me.

Beware the person who has nothing to lose.

What's the point in screaming? No ones listening anyway.

I'm young and I'm hopeless... I'm lost and I know this... I'm going nowhere fast... that's what they say... I'm troublesome, I've fallen... I'm angry at my Father... it's me against this world and I don't care.

Did it surprise you that I am not who you thought I was? Did it surprise you to find that I don't exactly stand for what you thought I stood for all along? Did it surprise you to find that I'm not exactly how I played myself out to be? That the person you thought I was is actually nothing to what I am.

The only thing standing between me and total happiness is reality.

The only thing worse then being hated is being ignored. At least when they hate you they treat you like you exist.

She is the quietest kind of rebel.

Nothing can stop me now because I don't care anymore.

She was like a flower that had been battered by a storm, but not quite destroyed. Gradually, she began to strengthen and bloom again.

She was a girl who knew how to be happy even when she was sad and that's important you know.

Behind this innocent smile of mine, lay words left unsaid. Words of longing, love, anger, and hate, all repeated inside my head.

I've been a loser all my life. I'm not about to change. If you don't like it, there's a door. Nobody made you stay.

But its ironic because that's how I live my life. I smile on the outside, and everyone thinks I'm doing fine but I'm always dieing inside, always one step away from the edge you know? I can't be happy to be who I am because I don't know who I am anymore.

I just realized that were all a bunch of actresses and we've fooled everyone into believing that we're all okay... I'm just waiting for the day when I can convince myself of that.---Jupiter_Girl

I just like playing games with people, I always hope there'll be someone smart enough to see through me but you're all so stupid.

I'm so happy, cause today I found my friends, they're in my head.---Kurt Cobain

QUIET! I can't hear you & all the voices in my head at the same time!

I cut to prove to you that you are not the only one that can hurt me.

I've come to the point where nothing matters anymore, and things I used to care about aren't worth fighting for.

I am not what I ought to be, not what I want to be, but I am thankful that I am better than I used to be...

Those who say sunshine brings happiness have never danced in the rain.

I'm not afraid of the gun in my hand, I'm not afraid of dying, I'm just afraid of the pain it will bring, and to see my best friends crying.

Are you running away from something you don't want? Or running away from something you're afraid to want?

I wear my scars proudly. They represent the battles through which I have gone, and I am proud because those battles I have won.

It is a truth universally acknowledged that the moment one area of your life starts going okay, another part of it falls spectacularly to pieces.

I believe in whatever gets you through the night. Night is the hardest time to be alive. For me, anyway. It lasts so long, and four am knows all my secrets. Four am is when my dreams die.

No matter what you do or say, there's nothing that you can do to make people understand you.---Kurt Cobain

Damaged people are dangerous, they know they know they can survive.

People dislike alcoholics, but they still drink at parties. People sit in non-smoking section in restaurants, but still enjoy the occasional nicotine jolt. People have strong feelings against self-injurers, but they also take all their emotions out on other people.

Such a pretty girl, happy in an ugly place. Watching all the pretty people do lots of ugly things.

The apple fall far from the tree she's rotten and so beautiful I'd like to keep her here with me and tell her that she's beautiful she takes the pills to fall asleep and dreams that she's invisible tormented dreams she stays awake recalls when she was capable...

Without pain, there would be no suffering, with out suffering we would never learn from out mistakes. To make it right, pain and suffering is the key to all windows, without it, there's no way of life.

If I would kill myself tonight, who would remember me tomorrow?

No more joy - No more sadness - No emotion - Only madness. I can't see. I don't feel. I can't touch. I don't heal.

There's a fine line between genius and insanity. I have erased this line.

Skin is beautiful, don't ruin it with scars just because your life isn't as beautiful. For once life becomes beautiful to you again, your skin wont be so beautiful anymore.

Life it seems, will fade away drifting further every day getting lost within myself nothing matters no one else I have lost the will to live simply nothing more to give.

I am sad but I'm laughing.

Everybody knows that something's wrong but nobody knows what's going on.

We all go a little mad sometimes. Haven't you?

The question isn't 'who is going to let me'; it's 'who is going to stop me'.

And sometimes I have really bad day... when, you know, I just want to hide or scream or bleed or something...

Scar tissue has no character. It's not like skin. It doesn't show age or illness or pallor or tan. It has no pores, no hair, no wrinkles. It's like a slip cover. It shields and disguises what's beneath. That's why we grow it; we have something to hide.

I only smile in the dark.

Every so often I want to dig my fingernails underneath my skin and peel off the face everybody's so used to seeing me in. Every so often I want people to know that I'm not as okay as they think I am. --- onceuponatime

It wasn't a suicide attempt, it was an escape from everything awful. When we cut, we're in control - we make our own pain and we can stop it whenever we want. Physical pain relieves mental anguish. For a brief moment, the pain of cutting is the only thing in the cutter's mind, and when that stops and the other comes back, it is weaker. Drugs do that too, and sex, but not like cutting. Nothing is like cutting.

To be loved to madness - such was her great desire. Love was to her the one cordial that could drive away the eating loneliness of her days.

These cuts are leaving creases. Trace the scars, to fit the pieces, to tell your story, you don't need to say a word.

Who am I? I am who I say I am and tomorrow someone else entirely.

A pill to make you numb, a pill to you make you dumb, a pill to make you anybody else, but all the drugs in this world won’t save her from herself.

We're all quite mad here. Ha... ha ha ha ha ha! You may have noticed that I'm not all there myself.

If you don't like the way I am, then don't come around me. If you don't like the way that I talk, then don't listen. If you don't like the way I dress, then don't look. But don't waste my time telling me about it. I don't care.

Reality has exiled me; I am no longer bound by it's laws.

Sometimes you can cry until there is nothing left wet in you. You can scream and curse to where your throat rebels and ruptures. You can pray all you want to whatever god you think will listen. And still, it makes no difference. It goes on, with no sign as to when it might release you. And you know that if it ever did relent... it would not be because it cared.-Johnny the Homicidal Maniac

Sometimes I sit and watch the ink leak from my pen. It comforts me to know something else bleeds the way I do.

It's an interesting feeling, really, to scroll through all the numbers in your phone, and realize that there is no one who will understand.

My skin is burnt but it heals my heart, with growing pride I’ll wear my scars, I am honored by you hate.--- Tera

I guess for some people its always a little easier to appreciate the rainy days instead of sunny days...

I've lived in this place and I know all the faces. Each one is different, but they're always the same. They mean me no harm but its time that I face it, they'll never allow me to change... But, I never dreamed home would end up where I don't belong... I'm moving on.

Where ever I am I always find myself looking out the window wishing I was somewhere else.---Angelina Jolie

There's something about death that is comforting. The thought that you could die tomorrow frees you to appreciate your life now---Angelina Jolie

Without pain, there would be no suffering, without suffering we would never learn from our mistakes. To make it right, pain and suffering is the key to all windows, without it, there is no way of life.---Angelina Jolie

I can't get my wrists to bleed, just don't know why suicide appeals to me. - Alice Cooper

This isn't a perfect world. People do get hurt. You smile when you feel like crying. You act like you're ok, when you're falling apart inside. And you try to let go, you try to move on, because you know there's nothing else you could do.

I have no clue why I do what I do. It feels good to have cold metal press against my skin as my problems tear at my soul. The blood drips softly and I cry silently. No one will ever understand me except for other people like me. ---cutegoddess01

Close your eyes, and imagine 5, 10, 15 years from now. You are with your husband and maybe 2, 3 or so kids and your a very happy family, and very self-full-filled and your life is perfect just the way you had always dreamed and hoped, and then your little 5 year old child asks you: "mommy, why do you have all those white scars on your arm?" and then what will you say? I used to take a razor and pull it down real slow and carefully and watch the blood drop out of my skin so that I could see that I am still alive, or so I could feel real physical pain instead of emotional pain. No you can't say that to your child. and even if you do then your child will learn from you and do the same to themselves when ever they are feeling down. you don't really want that now do you.

What you think is what you are. what you peruse becomes your reality. ---Babylon_11

You ask why I say nothings wrong when really everything is. You should know what wrong. Your my friends, your making bad decions and its killing me to see you suffer like you are. You just never see how what your doing effects me because you don’t care enough to look and see. ---FastTurtle

I was lost. There was nobody for me to talk to about all that you were troubling me with. So I sat alone, with everything inside, and cried myself to sleep.

when you talk about feelings, words were too stiff, they were this and not that, they couldn't include all the meanings. In defining, they always left something out.--- White Oleander

The skin of a scar is stronger than the original, less aware of pain...

Self-injury is a sign of distress not madness. We should be congratulated on having found a way of surviving.

When I cut myself, I feel so much better. All the little things that might have been annoying me suddenly seem trivial because I'm concentrating on the pain.

Scars are tattoos with better stories.

We are male and female. We are artists, athletes, students, and business owners. We have depression, DID, PTSD, eating disorders, borderline personalities, bipolar disorder, or maybe no diagnosis at all. Some of us were abused, some were not. We are straight, bi, and gay. We come from all walks of life and can be any age. We are every single race or religion that you can possibly think of. Our common link is this: We are in pain. We self-injure. And we are not freaks.

You see her sitting there and you think 'shes so sad' but its not that shes sad, shes simply given up on pretending to be happy, shes tired of getting up every morning and putting on her fake smile, telling herself 'today will be better'. She doesnt want to be an inconvenience or a bother anymore...she has stopped looking for the light switch in the dark room she calls her life. ~ Never_The_Star

In reality, I'm slowly losing my mind. Underneath the guise of smile, gradually I'm dying inside. Friends ask me how I feel and I lie convincingly. Cause I don’t want to reveal the fact that I'm suffering. So I wear my disguise till I go home at night and turn down all the lights and then I break down and cry.

Everyone is asking me how I feel, how I am and truthly I feel numb. I cant feel anything and honestly I like it.

Depression is such a strong emotion, its regret, fear, frustration, isolation, a choice, and sometimes even a form of protection. ~ Never_the_star

Loneliness is the human condition. No one is ever going to fill that space. -White Oleander

Why don't you just sit down, close your eyes and invent your own world? When you were little you did, even with your eyes open.

Sometimes it seems like we're all living in some kind of prison, and the crime is how much we all hate ourselves. It's good to get really dressed up once in a while and admit the truth - that when you look closely, people are so strange and complicated that they're actually beautiful. Possibly even me.

Cutters are living proof that when the body is ravaged the soul cries out and when the soul is trampled upon, the body bleeds.

I'm playing a game I can't win, I keep losing and losing, why do I keep playing? To me it isn't about winning or losing, I'm just enjoying the game.

The drastic steps I'm taking are just an act of desperation, no one's gonna miss me so what the hell. I fought and lied I drank too much. Hurt everyone I ever touched, just how much I hurt you is hard to tell. It's not some kind of cry for help just good bye I wish you well because I love you I'm gonna kill myself. --- Tim McGraw

I won't leave a note for anyone to find tomorrow they will know what I've done here tonight. --- Tim McGraw

Do you ever lay in bed at night hoping you wake up in the emergency room and hear the words "shes not going to make it?"

I certainly didn't tell anyone; I didn't advertise that I was doing this, but I didn't necessarily also make sure no one could see that I was injured. In fact, I felt proud of it; I felt good about it. It was like a battle scar: it proved that I had been grievously wounded and survived. When I hid my scars, I did so because I didn't want anyone to think I was a basket case or a mental case and to look down on me or to pity me or to stop hanging out with me - leave me because they couldn't. handle me...

You know when you cut yourself really badly, it doesn't hurt at all for awhile you don't feel anything - death, our reaction to death is sort of like that you don't feel anything at all and then later on you begin to hurt.

Pull the shades - razor blades - you're so tragic. i hate you so but love you more. i'm so elastic - the things you say - games you play - dirty magic. --- The Offspring

I did not, you see, want to kill myself. Not at that time, anyway. But I wanted to know that if need be, if the desperation got so terribly bad, I could inflict harm on my body. And I could. Knowing this gave me a sense of peace and power, so I started cutting up my legs all the time. Hiding the scars from my mother became a sport of its own. I collected razor blades, I bought a Swiss Army knife, I became fascinated with different kinds of sharp edges and the different cutting sensations they produced. I tried out different shapes - squares, triangles, pentagons, even an awkwardly carved heart, with a stab wound at its center, wanting to see if it hurt the way a real broken heart could hurt. I was amazed and pleased to find that it didn't. --- Prozac Nation

First time I cut was just to feel the pain, Strange because I didn't feel a thing. --- Kristen (aka KrazyKristen)

It wasn't because I wanted to die, I just wanted the pain to finally stop. --- Kristen (aka KrazyKristen)





Let me give you some advice-- if you are gonna lie about something at least make sure it's worth lying about. --- Kristen (aka KrazyKristen)

I've always been the good girl. The girl whose parents that she would grow up and actually become something. But I'm not like that anymore. I never thought I'd drink or snort those pills but I guess I was wrong. Now that I've done it I don't wanna stop. It's like cutting, once you drag that blade across your skin you can't stop. You don't wanna stop. I know you wanted a perfect teenage girl but in reality there isn't one. --- Kristen (aka KrazyKristen)

I'm so broken. not half full, not half empty, not ever cracked. I'm just broken. I can't exist anymore. I can barely function. there's nothing left to me. and I don't care.

Cutting is a stepping stone for me. All my life I have been put through so much emotional pain and ive let myself just sit and drown in it. I cant physically or emotionally do it anymore. So I cut. It temporaily takes my pain away until I am able to remove myself from all feeling. I am detached from everything right now... I am numb.--- Jupiter-Girl

Please don't blame yourself for any of the stupid shit that I choose to do. None of this is your fault. I'm the one who makes these bad decesions so im the one who pays the consequences.--- Jupiter-Girl



It was like sawdust, the unhappiness: it infitrated everything, everything was a problem, everything made her cry - school, homework, boyfriends, the future, the lack of future, the uncertainty of the future, fear of future, fear in general - but it was so hard to say exactly what the problem was in the first place - The Dead Girl



On top of feeling sad, I also felt guilty. --- Prozac Nation



I went home at night and cried for hours because so many people in my life expecting me to be a certain way was too much pressure, as if I'd been held against a wall and interrogated for hours, asked questions I couldn't quite answer any longer. --- Prozac Nation



I did not, you see, want to kill myself. Not at that time, anyway. But I wanted to know that if need be, if the desperation got so terribly bad, I could inflict harm on my body. And I could. Knowing this gave me a sense of peace and power, so I started cutting up my legs all the time. Hiding the scars from my mother became a sport of its own. I collected razor blades, I bought a Swiss Army knife, I became fascinated with different kinds of sharp edges and the different cutting sensations they produced. I tried out different shapes - squares, triangles, pentagons, even an awkwardly carved heart, with a stab wound at its center, wanting to see if it hurt the way a real broken heart could hurt. I was amazed and pleased to find that it didn't. --- Prozac Nation

There were times when she thought she didn't need to do it anymore, times when she thought she was done with it. Cutting made her feel like she was... special, like she had something. She liked having the ability to inflict pain whenever she wanted, and she liked that she could stop it. Not that she really wanted to. When she thought she was done, it made her empty, unsure if this was really living. She would ask herself if this was happiness, and told herself that if it was, she hated it. Cutting made her feel different then everyone else, but she also knew that other people did it for the same reasons, that made her feel that she was a part of something. Then there were times when the tears from her eyes burned a path down her cheek, and her throat was so tight she couldn't scream no matter how much she tried. Those times she would find relief only by cutting up her skin and bleeding out all the painful screams. The pain of living altogether flowed from one simple cut. She didn't care where she cut, arms, legs, stomach, or wrists. As long as she keeps cutting she can live to tomorrow.

You cry yourself to sleep at night I've heard your strangled sobs piercing through the darkness. wishing I could help. You cut your self to take control. I've seen mangled scars running up your arms as plentiful as veins. Wishing I could help You starve your self to grasp what's left I've seen you, thin and not even trying to live. Wishing I could help through all these things I've seen you, wished I could take away the pain. then you took it away your self. I wished I could've helped.

Unperfect. That's what you can call me. After all I am me, and don't fit a certain category. I'm just a girl who lives life day by day and always manages to put a smile on my face. Even if that day I'm a complete mess.

What is depression really? Is there one concrete definition, or has the meaning loosened as our generation has continued it's downhill descent? To me, depression is simply my life. I'm not suicidal. I'm not a cutter. I don't hate the world. I don't dress completely in black. I'm just sad. I've been sad for what feels like my entire life, but that's not true. I was happy once and I can vaguely remember what it felt like, but I can't touch it. I can't get that happiness back, I don't know how. That's what depression is to me, knowing what happiness is, but never being able to touch it, to feel it.- Jenny Leigh

One of the worst feelings in the world is loneliness. Sitting in the dark by yourself in the wee hours of the night gently crying. Nobody knows what's going on with you. How could anybody realize what's happening? Everybody you know is resting peacefully in their bed awaiting the new day tomorrow. But for you, there's no difference in the days. They pass monotonously. And before you know it, it's all gone.

The one person who really knows me best says I'm like a cat, the kind of cat that you just can't pick up and throw into your lap. Yeah the kind who doesn't mind being held only when it's her idea. Yeah the kind who feels what she decides to feel when she's good and ready to feel it. Now I am prowling through the backyard and I am hiding under the car and I've gotten out of everything I've gotten into so far and I eat when I am hungry and I travel alone. Just outside the glow of the house is where I feel most at home.

She cuts herself. Never too deep, never enough to die. But enough to feel the pain. Enough to feel the scream inside.

You might imagine that a person would resort to self-mutilation only under extremes of duress, but once I'd crossed that line the first time, taken that fateful step off the precipice, then almost any reason was a good enough reason, almost any provocation enough. Cutting was my all-purpose solution. My scars ought to be a charm bracelet of memonics, each a permanent reminder of its precipitating event, but maybe the most disturbing thing I can say about the history of my cutting is that for the most part I can't even remember the when’s and the whys behind those wounds. It didn't take much to make me cut. Frustration, humiliation, insecurity, guilt, remorse, loneliness... I cut 'em all out. They were like a poison, caustic and destructive, as though lye had been siphoned into my veins. The only way I could survive them, I thought, was to keep draining them from my blood.

How many cuts could I count? How many could I place in time and context? I had to admit that I couldn't remember the occasion of almost any of them, their catalysts, whether epic or mundane, completely obscured by time. So many moments of supposedly unendurable pain, now utterly forgotten. u start to think, Maybe I don't need this anymore. Maybe I never did I was trying to get equilibrium from two extremes: either I was so upset that I had to cut myself to relieve it, or I was so numb that I had to cut myself to get back to being there.

Let the blood run down your arms then try and tell me everything's okay.

I take the blade and run it gently against my skin, it cuts in deeper and deeper, the blood bursts out and slowly runs down my arm then it stops and the pain goes away.

Cutting doesn't solve anything or take the pain away, but for those few seconds everything is Okay...

Some times in stead of cutting an X on my wrist I make a cross so that the Lord can forgive me for destroying my body, and I also pray that the pain stops as the blood slowly drips onto my sheets.

Crimson tears run down my arm, All the pain and all the harm. My only way to let it out, I wanna scream, I wanna shout. But I don’t make a sound, I keep it inside. I wanna break out, but instead I hide. I sit in my room, and hide in my shell, The life that I’m living, my own private hell. The crimson tears, down my arm they run. I look down at my arm, what have I done? --- Bleedinginside

Every word, another scar, Some people say I cut for attention, Attention is the last thing I want, I tell them I've got my reasons, But what they don't know is, They are the reason I cut, I walk the halls and people talk, Their harsh words cut in deep, Don't they know what they're doing, Every word they say is another scar on my wrist.

As she's breaking down she grabs her razor and she whispers... this time I'm not okay...

I never knew that one singe blade could mess up my life...

There is nothing sadder than a child who has barely seen the world, yet who has seen enough of it to know that he does not wish to be a part of it...

You're scared because you don't understand... I'm scared because I do.

I'm okay... isn't that what I'm suppose to say?

The razor moves along her wrist like a river, so peacefully, as that red water starts to escape, its hard to make it stop.

Nothing is more dear to them than their own suffering - they are afraid that they will lose it - They feel it, like a whip cracking over their heads, striking them and yet befriending them; it wounds them, but it also reassures them. --- Ugo Betti

Why? Why do I feel so gone? I am now so distant I just don't belong. Now I'm ripped away from existence. I've become so transparent that I lost all substance. Sitting nowhere, breathing fake air. We don't feel anymore, so we can't care. Its about time I clear my throat. Let the hellish screams out till I begin to float. I'd run a million miles from here, just to get out of this cage and escape from fear. You know you're screwed when you crave pain, you wanna bleed all throughout your brain. The blood in my veins is proof of life. I'm not sure if its there, so I reveal it with a knife. Not me any more, don't know myself. Prisoner in my own skin, I no longer comprehend health. It's all in the family they used to say. It's all in the family so it must be ok. They hurt and rape her, they slash and tear her, they kill and torture, they love the terror. We are our own army so lets retaliate. Fight, destroy, show them real hate. Look at the fire in her eyes. That roaring beast never hides. She lost all she ever had. Blood seeps through her skin cause it hurts so bad. Her shattered heart pounds against her breast, scattered pieces cutting holes in her chest. Slowly she fades as she quickly she drowns. Covered in guilt, sequestered from sounds. Tilting on the edge, about to fall off. Her mind is so lacerated it has become leathery and soft.-Anonymous

That was when I cut my arms with a razor blade as a means of creative expression. I only did it lightly, just grazing the skin, to see the way the blood would bleed out, to make myself look tougher. Not like some of those kids who keep going deeper and deeper, wondering what they look like down to the bone, because it's a world that's so close and yet so far and so dangerous and so much their own. The only world that is their own.

How will you know I am hurting, If you cannot see my pain? To wear it on my body Tells what words cannot explain.

It requires more courage to suffer than to die.

I'm freezing, I'm starving, I'm bleeding to death, Everything's fine.

'But I don't want to go among mad people,' Alice remarked.

'Oh, you can't help that,' said the Cat. 'We're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad.'

'How do you know I'm mad?' said Alice.

'You must be," said the Cat. 'or you wouldn't have come here.'"

Insanity is knowing that what you're doing is completely idiotic, but still, somehow, you just can't stop it.

"...occasionally I wished I could walk through a picture window and have the sharp, broken shards slash me to ribbons so I would finally look like I felt." - Prozac Nation

Don't let yourself become so angry that you stop loving, because one day, you'll wake up from that anger, and the person you love will be gone.

Tough times don't last but tough people do. fuck your past … don't let is fuck with you...

That's the problem with cutting. Once you start, you can't stop. It's addicting, cutting is my drug. It serves its purpose perfectly. Once I cut, I forget about everything that has been wrong. All that is left is my concentration on my cut. I forget about everything but the pain. Pain has become my world. --- ConcretAngel

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Was I ever crazy? Maybe. Or maybe life is... Crazy isn't being broken or swallowing a dark secret. It's you or me amplified. If you ever told a lie and enjoyed it. If you ever wished you could be a child forever. They were not perfect, but they were my friends and by the '70s most of them were out living lives. Some I've seen, some never again, but there isn't a day my heart doesn't find them.



You know, there's too many buttons in the world. There's too many buttons and they're just- There's way too many just begging to be pressed,they're just begging to be pressed,you know? They're just - they're just begging to be pressed, and it makes me wonder, it really makes me fucking wonder, why doesn't anyone ever press mine? Why am I so neglected? Why doesn't anyone reach in and rip out the truth and tell me that I'm a fucking whore, or that my parents wish I were dead?



I'm a whole lot of things that shouldn't fit together. Not just the bits on this page but a whole ball of tumbled craze, rage, and ecstasy. Accept me for who I am and join the game or get the hell off my playground. My life, my {lack of} rules. I don't experience the world as most do. I walk the Borderline between a Dissociated world and the world you know. Some days the noise won't stop. The maddening mundane drones on and on. Other days the quiet is deafening. All that remains is the pounding in my brain. Will you, won't you, will you, won't you, won't you join the dance?











Quotes - heartless-bitch.com

The hardest thing about knowing you don't love me


is that you spent so much time pretending that you did.

Do I really love him or am I addicted to the pain of wanting something I can't have.

I love you yet I hate you its like I want to throw you off a cliff and then run really fast to the bottom and catch you. (this is me and my friend Kevin)

If I ever get around to boyfriend number two, he better have a busy life full of his own hobbies and goals, because I will not be someone's reason to exhale. I have better things to do then entertain a full grown man when I'm not getting paid for it. "

-- HBI Member, Gabriela

"Men have called me a man-hater, a feminazi, frigid, a bitch... but in my mind it always translates as "You don't need me to validate your existence, and that scares me." "

-- HBI member, KIM

"If you ever need an outfit to match that stick up your ass, give me a call."

-- Lenore Bernard, Fashion Consultant (From the HBO Series, Hung)

"Treating the whole world as if it works for you doesn't suggest you're special, it means you're an ass. "

-- Raina Kelley at Newsweek

"...this is exactly how Nice Guys operate, treating all encounters with women as a form of speed dating and then getting annoyed when it’s revealed that the woman getting coffee was, in fact, actually getting coffee rather than cruisin’ for an emotionally co-dependent shitstorm."

-- Richie at criticism.wordpress.com

There's a reason it's called 'girls gone wild' and not 'women gone wild'. When girls go wild, they show their tits. When women go wild, they kill men and drown their kids in a tub."

-- Comedian, Louis C.K.

"The only thing I HAVE to do in this life is die. Everything else is a choice with consequences - including breathing."

-- HBI Member, Genie

"Yes, I'm pissed off and most people irritate me. But if people weren't so ignorant, self-absorbed, and down right stupid, I wouldn't be so Bitchy all the time."

-- HBI Member, Devon

"He's rude, controlling, abusive, misogynistic, disparaging and dismissive.... In all seriousness though, what a hideous lust object to mythologize. It'll be teaching all sorts of young girls that it's ROMANTIC to accept any sort of appalling treatment some brooding loser who treats you like dirt."

-- The Morrigan, (describing the romantic lead in "Twilight")

"...it's about writing a coherent application, not SAYING you're not beating around the bush when you are, in fact, grooming your own ornamental hedge."

-- -Fabulana, reviewing and rejecting a membership application

"Since when has being cheap counted as "empowerment"?...Hey, I'm all for getting in touch with the "inner goddess" by pole dancing you're way to "new you", but you can't get lobster thermidore out of a can of tuna. Get a life."

-- -HBI Member, Lola

"If a bunch of guys are calling me a Bitch, I know I must be hitting a nerve, if they start calling me a Heartless Bitch, I know I've got them running scared, but the best part is when they call me a Cold, Heartless Bitch (my brother's personal favorite), because they know I am someone they will never be able to subjugate."

-- -HBI Member, Dana

"In conclusion, I invite the media to all grow a pair. And if you can’t, I will lend you mine."

-- Amy Poehler as Hilary Clinton on Saturday Night Live

"Seriously, just how psychologically crippled do you have to be before shopping for shoes, the socks your husband left in the floor, coloring your hair, and what your neighbors think of you are the biggest things in your whole fucking world?"

-- HBI Member Hazel

"Being a Heartless Bitch isn't about stepping on other people, or reality TV-style sabotage antics. Its about working hard for what you want, and knowing when to stand up for what you deserve. Its not about demoralizing others; its about self-empowerment. Its not about being arrogant; its about displaying your confidence and intellect as a badge of pride. Its not asserting any inherent superiority or self-entitlement, but recognizing your own self-worth and value."

-- Kat D.

"No, that dress doesn't make you seem fat...but your dependence on others' opinions definitely makes you seem shallow."

"The idea that one person could be all things to another person, satisfy every need or even more than one, is sentimental and mawkish."

-- Zack (from the TV show "Bones")

"You better put a condom on - if you're gonna act like a dick you need to dress like one."

-- HBI Member, Robin

"IF I cared, I'd draw you a map of your ass with an X marking the spot where your head is buried."

-- Fabulana

"Hell hath no fury like a Heartless Bitch forced to listen (yet again) to the sighs and moans of another human being complaining about how insurmountable their problems are when they should be out there actually doing something to solve them!"

-- HBI Member, Jules

"An over-inflated ego wrapped in an undeserved sense of entitlement earns a first class ticket to the back of the queue."

-- HBI Member, Rachel

"Just because I don't want to fuck you anymore doesn't make me a lesbian. It just makes you an asshole."

-- HBI Member, Rebecca

"When kicking the unworthy to the curb, kick correctly lest they bounce back to you."

-- HBI Member, Karen H.

"At this point, I don't think she's a heartless bitch; she's a bitter, angry bitch, and that's an energy-burner and, eventually, a soul-destroyer."

-- Instigatrix

"Hun, your jerk boyfriend is like a bottle of sour milk in the fridge. You don't keep going back and tasting the milk to see if it's better; why do you think that if you give him enough chances, he'll magically become a nice guy?"

-- HBI Member Ann

"Don’t fuck with my reality. I’d rather know an ugly truth than be mislead by a pretty lie. Just lay it on out there, say what you mean and don’t paint the turds."

-- HBI Member MisTre

I do get called a bitch quite often. What I do NOT get called is pushover, stupid, sweetheart, dear or doormat. Works for me."

-- Rebecca M.



"Why this insane, vein-popping determination that it's impossible, IMPOSSIBLE that a female who actually has a life and two firing brain cells to rub together would POSSIBLY have anything pointedly critical to say about males?"

-- Instgatrix

"I know the difference between being a Bitch (taking no unwarranted shit) and being an asshole (dishing out unwarranted shit)."

-- HBI Member Lamont

"I couldn't give a rat's tutu about your emotional distress"

-- Judge Judy

"I've been pissed off by one too many immature, disorganized and emotionally spastic publicists to take any shit from an f'ing sweetdick BMW-owning engineer. The principle is: Put your balls in your pants and USE THEM."

-- Fabulana

"And oh, the painful attempts at wit. Clearly this guy thinks he's hot shit on a stick with rice. I do agree with the shit part, though, and I definitely have my suspicions about that stick."

-- Instigatrix

"You do learn restraint, though. You can't give in to that motherly urge to smother 'em all in their sleep. In this business it would just mean more work for you the next day."

-- Mamesanne Furey in "Hatching, Matching and Dispatching"

If he really WANTS to use his head as a butt-plug, maybe you should just, you know, LET him. Perhaps he has a fondness for using santorum as a hair-grooming product."

"The victimization culture of today's psychology has done a great disservice to too many people. Somewhere along the way, therapists forgot to teach their patients that the 'right to have your feelings' does not mean the right to act like a raging asshole."

"What worries me the most is that most men are so weak. Because of that they act like they don't care and like machos - because they are too fragile inside. They're scared of confrontation and afraid of so many things."

"Maybe I had three children in the first place so I wouldn't ever have to play board games. In my religion, martyrs die."

"An intelligent woman has millions of born enemies... all the stupid men."

"You can all get over over your fear of looking like the bad guy, and have the uncomfortable "break-up conversation," because avoiding that, is what makes you the bad guy."

"People seldom do what they believe in. They do what is convenient, then repent."

-- Bob Dylan

-- Fabulana (on the subject of men who accuse discerning women of "being judgmental")

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"Parroting your spouse and agreeing with everything he/she says is no substitute for, nor is it the same as having a spine of your own. And remember, spines DO bend and move. They aren't rigid. Don't confuse having an iron rod stuck up your ass with having a spine.

-- Liana Trement

"Haven't you got any romance in your soul?" said Magrat plaintively.

"No," said Granny. "I ain't. And stars don't care what you wish, and magic don't make things better, and no one doesn't get burned who sticks their hand in a fire. If you want to amount to anything as a witch, Magrat Garlick, you got to learn three things. What's real, what's not real, and what's the difference."

-- Terry Pratchett, "Witches Abroad"

"I wanted to make it really special on Valentine's day, so I tied my boyfriend up. And for three solid hours I watched whatever I wanted on TV.

-- Tracy Smith

"Told her that the only way to get on at EMF is to act like one of the boys, and when you act like one of the boys they call you abrasive and difficult, so you act like a woman and they say you're emotional and difficult. Difficult being their word for everything that's not them."

-- Kate Reddy from "I Don't Know How She Does It by Allison Pearson

-- Donna Gephart ("The Wicked Little Book of Quotes")

"Just remember, when you are going for a younger model, be sure you are picking up a zippy little sportscar and not a Volvo."

-- Henrietta

" "My dear, I have kicked more ass than you have sat on."

-- Zotoh Zhaan, Farscape

"You're sweet, and you're young; neither are traits that I hold in high regard."

-- Mina Harker to Tom Sawyer in the movie "League of Extraordinary Gentlemen"

"I used to think 'bad boys' were diamonds in the rough, but then I realized, they were really just lumps of coal."

-- Henrietta Bristow

"You turn that big flashing martyr sign on your head up any brighter and you're going to singe off your pointy little moron head."

-- The No Queen

"Never Grow a wishbone where your backbone ought to be"

-- Cynthia Paddleford

"Mom, romance is dead. It was acquired in a hostile takeover by Hallmark and Disney, homogenized, and sold off piece by piece."

-- Lisa Simpson

"My antagonistic meanspirited attitude is reserved for fuckwits who desperately try to rationalize or otherwise defend what is an unhealthy mindset. Get some therapy."

-- JadeSyren

"If you do not tell the truth about yourself, you can't tell it about other people."

-- Virginia Woolf

-- Susan Jane Gilman from "Kiss My Tiara"

"You should never underestimate the predictability of stupidity."

-- Bullet Tooth Tony (from the movie Snatch)

"A heart is the only thing that has value. If you have one, throw it away. "

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"Principles only mean something if you stick by them when they are inconvenient."

-- "Laine Hanson" (played by Joan Allen) from the movie "The Contender"

"We don't make room on our couch for any emotional cripples."

-- JadeSyren

"Livejournal is a site where people who don't have any friends can spend hours writing fucking inane journal entries and then pretend that they have friends who want to read them. It's a great system because it keeps the loonies off the goddamn streets. With Livejournal around, you can read about some guy who is complaining that Cap'n Crunch slices open the roof of his mouth when he eats it. If Livejournal didn't exist, you would be walking down the street and meet the same guy screaming at the top of his lungs and trying to stab you in the face with a hammer."

-- from "Chris" at somethingawful.com

"I like to look good, that makes me a tease. I like to eat, that makes me a pig. I like to get off, that makes me a slut. I like to be treated with respect, that makes me a man-hating dyke. Trust me, I have no problem being labeled a bitch."

-- Maddy

"Here's the thing: If you ever get me, you wouldn't have a clue what to do with me."

-- "Maxine", (in "Being John Malkovich")

"You were 30 pounds overweight, and suddenly you have some insight into obesity? I guess when my clit swells, I'll know what it's like to have a dick."

-- JadeSyren

"A friend of mine and I were bitching about chicks recently and after seeing your site, I realized that we're just going after the wrong women. Only the princesses want the assholes."

-- CM.

"Heartless it may be, but headless it ain't. I've never claimed to be nice, just to be sensible."

-- "Granny Weatherwax" a delightfully practical and irascible witch from Terry Pratchett's Discworld novel, "Lords and Ladies"

"Be yourself! Be yourself, the magazines insistently croon, so long as your REAL self has a killer body and a starlet's face. Granted the magazines also speak to ambition and self-worth, but image rules tyranically over all."

-- Judith Timson (speaking about teen magazines), McCleans, Sept 2001.

"I don't need another version of marginal person in my life. I think this term melds over everything. Marginal not only in sane/insane but in complacent, mediocre people who aren't more than a shoulder shrug.

I decided that people who never answered the door when truth knocked on it (nay, beat it down) were of no interest to me. I wanted and kept my "Judge Judy" friends. Friends who knew shit when they smelled it, even when it came from me, and told me so."

-- JadeSyren

"So what does he do? Circular reasoning: "I'm a shit, and I ruin everything I touch. I fucked things up with X. But, if she REALLY was the ONE, then I wouldn't have been able to do it. Everything happened because SHE willed it to. Goddamnit, it's NOT me, it's HER." You are evil because you weren't THE ONE who could save him from himself. And no one else will ever be that mysterious, elusive ONE. He knows that HE'S the problem, but he's scrambling to make the right woman his unicorn who will save him from himself."

-- JadeSyren

"Trust me, dear, I know depressed. Depressed sure have made me act like an ass, but it never split my face in two. That was a conscious decision on her part, whether either of you want to admit it or not. I have no sympathy for either of you."

-- The No Queen

"What does it mean to feel "in control" of your life? What I mean by control is the ability to make a choice. Personal sovereignty means that you choose from what is available in order to be intentional about your life...When you feel in control of your life, you know yourself to be the author of your own actions and know that you always have choices."

-- Polly Young-Eisendrath, from "Women and Desire"



"Powerful and sneaky people use apologies as end runs around repentance. They betray a trust; and, when they have been found out, say they are sorry for 'mistakes in judgment.' They smile through their oily apologies when their crime calls for quakes of repentance. They get by only because we have lost our sense of the difference between repentance for wrong and apologies for bungling... We should not let each other get away with it. A deep and unfair hurt is not a mere faux pas... When somebody hurts us deeply and unfairly, an apology will not do the job; it only trivializes a wrong that should not be trifled with."

-- Lewis B. Smedes ("Forgive and Forget")

"I encourage women to explicitly rebuff unwanted approaches, but I know it is difficult to do. Just as rapport building has a good reputation, explicitness applied by women in this culture has a terrible reputation. A woman who is clear and precise is viewed as cold, or a bitch, or both. A woman is expected, first and foremost, to respond to every communication from a man. And the response is expected to be one of willingness and attentiveness."

-- Gavin de Becker, from "Gift of Fear"

"Women who pay their own rent don't have to be nice."

-- Katharine Dunn

I don't need anyone to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves.

-- Shirley Maclaine

"[He dumped her for another woman?] Even a weatherman could have called THAT one. ("High-pressure, low-integrity blame system approaching from the south. Dense cloud cover, increasing psychodrama. Partly charming today, 90% chance of disrespect tomorrow. Relative humiliation 100%.")"

-- Tavia, commenting on DT's predictable behavior

"Just because I accept you as you are does not mean that I have given up all hope of your improvement."

-- Ashleigh Brilliant

"So fucking what if you're willing to admit you're wrong? Willing to admit it doesn't buy you a "get foot out of mouth free" card."

-- The No Queen

"To want to get better means be ready to face the pain. It is only when you face the pain that you will begin to gain a healthy perspective from which you can then think less distortedly, to the point where you will be able to recognize when you are so triggered as to blur your past with someone in your present.

"I like my agression up front where I can see it and deal with it. I'm tired of the weak-minded passive-aggressive bullshit that people fling while claiming to be "non-confrontational". Anyone who can't confront/address issues head-on isn't someone I care to spend much time in the company of."

-- Nataliep

"She's in the same boat, but SHE think's HER'S is a yacht..."

-- Jadesyren (in reference to one of two co-workers who are deluding themselves)

-- Ken C.

"Show me a frigid woman and, nine times out of ten, I'll show you a little man."

-- Julie Burchill

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"I may be many things, but I am no man's consolation prize."

-- The Morrigan

"One wonders what would happen in a society where there were no rules to break. Doubtless, everyone would quickly die of boredom."

-- Susan Howatch (British writer)

"I have no patience for women who cry at the drop of a hat, nor for the men who fall for it."

-- Megan Drip

"See what happens when you let men into the cabinet?"

-- Secretary of State Madeleine Albright, after Health and Human Services Secretary Donna Shalala pointed out that the two women were discussing Kosovo policy while, nearby, Housing and Urban Development Secretary Andrew Cuomo was complimenting Agriculture Secretary Dan Glickman on his shoes...

"I can't take you seriously if your skirt is so short I can see your tampon string."

-- Rachel Goodwin

"How can you say you're misunderstood? You're an idiot-there's not a whole lot that needs understanding there."

-- Isabel

"I tried the subtle guidance thing, more than once, and it just didn't work. If a man isn't strong enough to be honest with me, I'm not going to make an effort to coddle his ego."

-- Ms. Monica

"I don't have a problem with men. I have a problem with STUPID men."

-- Maggie Estep

"Forget the Men in Black, it's the Bitches in Red I'm gonna call."

- Mariweb (from a discussion about Heartless Bitches defending the world from the Sappy.)

"It might help you understand male psychology if you understand that men see themselves as sexual hunters, like proud jungle cats. They pursue their female quarry through the jungles of seduction and then, with grace and power, they pounce. Then they cling to your leg and whine for the rest of their pathetic lives. Male lions also spend most of the day sleeping. My advice to you, my little gazelles, is RUN like HELL"

-- Steve Burgess, "Hey Baby & Other Lies - Chatelaine, June 1999"

"One of the things about equality is not just that you be treated equally to a man, but that you treat yourself equally to the way you treat a man."

-- Marlo Thomas

"I'm also starting to believe that men are more in touch with the realities of commitment, and that's why they (for the most part, or the ones I know) avoid making them. My experience with women shows me that they candy-coat the reality of co-habitation."

-- JadeSyren

"Expecting life to treat you well because you are a good person is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian."

-- Shari R. Barr

"An individualist is a man who says: 'I will not run anyone's life - nor let anyone run mine. I will not rule or be ruled. I will not be a master nor a slave. I will not sacrifice myself to anyone - nor sacrifice anyone to myself.'"

-- Ayn Rand, "Textbook of Americanism"

"I say, I don't care if you want to act like a child -- I'm going to treat you like an adult. Which means that your actions have adult consequences. Pouting and shouting will only make me leave not stay and hug and comfort for irrational and unacceptable behavior. I feel proud/lucky to have never 'trained' a boyfriend. They don't make it past the first date if they're not house-broken."

-- Roethke

"...big strapping boys with loads of testosterone, overactive libidos and dim intellects. One of them asked for my number so he could call me with the address for the party. Yeah right: 1-800-OH-AS-IF!"

-- the morrigan

"Sometimes a big dick is just that."

-- the morrigan

"A lot of warm vulgarity is incomparably preferable to a little bit of pinched niceness".

-- Caitlin Thomas

"Um--I hate to break it to him (and his therapist), but he HASN'T accepted responsibility... As far as *I* know (and hey, who knows--maybe he's been communing with the spirit of Webster, and has gotten sanctioned changes that us mere mortals know nothing about), taking responsibility for something means 'fessing up AND trying to make things better. He's not even 'fessing up with both feet, much less admitting that something needs to be made better, much LESS doing something to actually try to MAKE it better. All he's doing is SAYING that he takes responsibility;

And there you have it, ladies and gents--Taking Responsibility Lite! Tastes great, less filling! All of the lip service, and none of the work! ACTUALLY taking responsibility? Forget THAT messy alternative!"

-- Tavia

"Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do and damned if you don't."

-- Eleanor Roosevelt

"When they're not squawking about how they aren't respected by the powers-that-be, they're far enough up those powers' assholes to taste lunch. They all feel that I'm a bit brazen-rightfully so-because I swear by the aphorism: "If you can't hack it, pack it!" I've got better things to do on the job than validate a bunch of sniveling, objecting, fussy little weasels - like look for another job."

-- Liz M.

"These feminist manhaters are made of straw, or rather of crunched-up broadsheets of the conservative press (how do they get the leg hairs to stick, I wonder...) ... . How is being a feminist meaningful if, to be "okay", you have to conform to the patriarchal feminine? ( the patriarchal feminine, like: not being "ugly", "mean", "angry"...)"

-- Belinda

"I have NO sympathy for people who want to play both sides of the fence and then have the gall to whine how much it *huuuuurrts* (and how hard done by they are) when they get a picket SHOVED UP THEIR ASS."

-- Nataliep

"You may not be able to change the world, but at least you can embarrass the guilty."

-- Jessica Mitford

"I only stayed because you turned the lights out."

-- Elisabeth Bennington

"Her message is quasi strong enough to say she's a *flounce* independent-like grown-up type woman, but not quite powerful enough to say...fuck off, jerk.

Reminds me of the Spice Girls, Meredith Brooks and Hollywood "strong" women.

Plastic.

Fembot."

-- JadeSyren (from a discussion about MaxiMag and its editor, Janelle Brown)

"Just saying no prevents teenage pregnancy the way 'Have a nice day' cures chronic depression."

-- Faye Wattleton

"I WAS going to call you a bastard, but you're too ugly to be a love child!"

-- submitted by FeralCheryl

"I don't do lost causes. Sold my tamborine. Besides. I find that most often, the people so desperately in need of enlightenment prefer the dark. Not that the dark isn't good, but I'm not talking about any other nuance of darkness than the uneducated brand."

-- JadeSyren.

"Me have an affair? Yeah, like I actually wanna fake orgasm for two men."

-- Anita Monical

"Suicide is the most sincere form of self-criticism."

-- Anon

"Some people simply grow old, but they never grow UP. Clearly he is becoming more of an assoholic in his old age."

- "If imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, then litigation is the sincerest form of 'Thank-you'."

-- Nataliep (in reference to a site that attempted to copycat HBI)

"He thinks he's got some kind of immunity to her headgames? That kind of arrogance is just laughable. I don't care if you are coated in teflon - if shit is being flung and you are anywhere in the vicinity, some of it is going to land on YOU."

-- Tavia



On Men



Men are proof that women can take a joke. -- Unknown



There's no sin in loving men. Only pain! -- "Ally McBeal"



Men are like gum anyway -- after you chew they lose their flavor. -- "Ally McBeal"



All men have something to hide. The brighter the picture, the darker the negative. -- "Rupert Thorne" (on Batman The Animated Series)



Is it me? Is it like I have a beacon that only dogs and men with severe emotional problems can hear? -- "Monica Geller" (on Friends)



I like my men, crispy on the outside and stuck to the end of a fork. -- "Roseanne"



I'm not a lesbian. I hate men, but I'm not a lesbian. -- "Elaine" (on Seinfeld)



The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness, can be trained to do most things. -- Jilly Cooper



Don't accept rides from strange men, and remember that all men are strange. -- Robin Morgan



Men seem to flip around the television more than women. Men get that remote control in their hands, they don’t even know what the hell they’re not watching. You know we just keep going, “Rerun, that’s stupid, he’s stupid, go, go, go.” “What are you watching?” “I don’t care, I gotta keep going.” “Who was that?” “I don’t know what it was, doesn’t matter, it’s not your fault. I gotta keep going.” “I think that’s a documentary on your father.” “Don’t care, what else is on?” Women don’t do this. Women will stop and go, “Well let me see what the show is, before I change the channel. Maybe we can nurture it, work with it, help it grow into something.” Men don’t do that. Because women nest and men hunt. That’s why we watch TV differently. -- Jerry Seinfeld



If men could menstruate ... clearly, menstruation would become an enviable, boast-worthy, masculine event: Men would brag about how long and how much.... Sanitary supplies would be federally funded and free. Of course, some men would still pay for the prestige of such commercial brands as Paul Newman Tampons, Muhammed Ali’s Rope-a-Dope Pads, John Wayne Maxi Pads, and Joe Namath Jock Shields —”For Those Light Bachelor Days.” -- Gloria Steinem



P.M.S.= Putting up with Men's Sh*t! -- Unknown



Do you have any idea what's available to a woman of 33? Married men. Drunks. Pretty boys looking for someone to support them. Lunatics looking for their fifth divorce! It's quite a list, isn't it?-- "Sylvia Crewes" (in The Tender Trap)



Men think less of other men’s writing, but more of other men’s wives. -- Chinese Proverb



Men have always detested women’s gossip because they suspect the truth: their measurements are being taken and compared. -- Erica Jong



Men perceive that equating love and domestic work is a trap. They fear that to get involved with housework would send them hurtling into the bottomless pit of self-sacrifice that is women’s current caring roles. -- Debbie Taylor



Men expect too much, do too little. -- Allen Tate



Men make clothes for the women they’d like to be with or—in most cases—the women they’d like to be. -- Robert Altman



Men’s hearts are cold. They are indifferent. -- Mother Jones



Men hate more steadily than they love. -- Samuel Johnson



There are big men, men of intellect, intellectual men, men of talent and men of action; but the great man is difficult to find, and it needs—apart from discernment—a certain greatness to find him. -- Margot Asquith



Some men have a necessity to be mean, as if they were exercising a faculty which they had to partially neglect since early childhood. -- F. Scott Fitzgerald



All men are somewhat ridiculous and grotesque, just because they are men -- Friedrich Von Schlegel



Men are only too clever at shifting blame from their own shoulders to those of others. -- Titus Livius



If men got pregnant, there would be safe, reliable methods of birth control. They’d be inexpensive, too. -- Anna Quindlin



From Georgina W: The male chromosome is an incomplete female chromosome. In other words, the male is a walking abortion; aborted at the gene stage. To be male is to be deficient, emotionally limited; maleness is a deficiency disease and males are emotional cripples. -- Valerie Solanos



From Georgina W: Deprive man of his life lie and you rob him of his happiness. -- Ibsen



From Irene: Men have two purposes in life: reproduction and to open those friggin jars. -- Irene



From Irene: Men have one advantage in life, they can pee on a tree. -- Irene



From Jeffrey Joseph: "99.9% of men may be jackasses but, .1% of them do nothing but help and serve -- Jeffrey Joseph



From Noemi M: No men, no cry. -- Unknown



From Pinkfrog: Fuck you and your untouchable face. Fuck you for existing in the first place. -- Ani DiFranco



From Angela W: Men are good for one thing, and how often do you need to parallel park? -- Unknown (originally appeared in Reader's Digest)



From Amy E: No man is worth your tears and the one who is won't make you cry. -- Unknown



From Jen: Men never do anything right, and if they do something right, they'll never do it again. -- Unknown



From Beabells: God created Adam and never broke the mold! -- "My mother, Eleanor"



From alicenwonderland: Unfortunately, all men were created equal. -- Unknown



From alicenwonderland: Never let your man's mind wander......its too small to be let out by its self. -- Unknown



From alicenwonderland: My mother told me a way to a mans heart is through his stomach..........I think she was about six inches too high -- Unknown



From Pelletier: The only good men are dating each other. -- Unknown



From Rivka: A male gynocologist is like an auto mechanic who never owned a car. -- Carrie Snow



From Rivka: If high heels were so wonderful, men would be wearing them. -- Sue Grafton



From Rivka: If men can run the world, why can't they stop wearing neckties? How intelligent is it to start the day by tying a noose around your neck? -- Linda Ellerbee



From Lindsey C: If you have one you are one! OR Just because you have one, doesn't mean you have to be one.



From Mustang, IN: Men adore me, until I show my intelligence, assertiveness and independence. Then I suddenly seem to be a BITCH! Men are such fearful creatures!



From Rose, VA: If a man is standing alone in the woods and says something.....is he still wrong?



From CeCe, CA: I think all men are DOGS even the good ones!



From Missy, IA: I wasn't born a bitch. Men like you made me this way.



From Maria, NV: The problem with most men is they are assholes. The problem with most woman is they put up with those assholes. - CHER



From Miss Independant, Germany: Men are a luxury, not a necessity. - Cher



From Miss Independant, Germany: If you want something said, ask a man, but if you want something done ask a woman. - Margaret Thatcher



From Mel: Dear Lord, I pray for wisdom to understand my man; Love to forgive him; And patience for his moods; Because Lord, if I pray for strength I'll beat him to death. Amen.



From Sal, UK: Men have two faults-everything they say and everything they do. - Author Unknown



From Black Pepper, LA: Guys think that you are a sidewalk and they just walk all over you!



From Janice, NJ: Men are only good for two things, the double D's: Dick and Disappointment!



From Kellis: If a man goes though life following his cock, it will eventally get caught in a closed door.



From Leirza, New Zealand: Remember,only punish men that deserve it. But don't they all deserve it? Well, yes, I was getting to that.



From Paige, PA: If men can't sit there and look pretty, then they might as well go fix something, that's all they're good for. Men weren't put on this earth to think they were put on the earth to please women.



From Allisonshine, NY: There are easier things then finding a good man; nailing jello to the wall for instance...



From Linna, MA: Men say kissing is the language of love but then afterwords they end up having a conversation with your best friend.



From Mary, CA: My boyfriend said that taking out the trash wasn't a priority and I decided he was no longer a priority.



From Mary, CA: Multi-tasking is a foreign word to men.



From Mary, CA: Men have all the time in the world to make themselves happy and little time for anything else.



From Mary, CA: Men are full of a lot of things, excuses being high on the totem poll.



From Mary, CA: I try to keep people who lie, break promises and need a 24 hour mom to a minimum.



From Mary, CA: The only reason to keep a man is: hmm...there isn't one.



From Ashley: Men are not humans, they're animals.



From Nikki & Kim: No man is worth your tears and the one that is, won't make you cry.



From Nikki: Back to the predictable and humdrum, the prince will never come and sleeping beauty is dead. -- Queen of the Damned (The book, not the movie)



From Dani, WI: Men are at the bottem of the pyramid of life. They're jerks and women know it, but the problem is that some of them pretend not to be and then end up as jerks after all. So what's the point in even waiting around for a "good one"? How about we bury 'em and use them only for breeding.



From Seattlgrrl: Men, no matter how unappealing, each of them imagines he is somehow worthy. - White Oleander, by Janet Fitch



From JC: I have come to the conclusion, from observation and experience, that men are like farts. Unpleasant experiences that we must walk through and the only good thing about it is that we learn how long we can really hold our breath.



From Heather, IL: Men aren't that complicated, they're kind of like houseplants. - Samantha from 'Sex and The City'



From El, UK: It's not healthy to keep your head so far up your ass; I should know, I'm a nurse! - from 'High heels and lowlifes



From Ashley R, NJ: Roses are red, violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you. But the roses are wilting, and the violets are dead, the sugar bowl's empty and so is your head.



"Feminism is the theory, lesbianism is the practice." -- Ti-Grace Atkinson



"Women have their faults / men have only two: / everything they say / everything they do."

-- Popular Feminist Graffiti



Catharine MacKinnon ( ) maintains that "the private is a sphere of battery, marital rape and women's exploited labor." In this way, privacy and family are reduced to nothing more than aspects of the master plan, which is male domination. Democratic freedoms and the need to keep the state's nose out of our personal affairs are rendered meaningless. The real reason our society cherishes privacy is because men have invented it as an excuse to conceal their criminality. If people still insist that the traditional family is about love and mutual aid--ideals which, admittedly, are sometimes betrayed--they're "hiding from the truth." The family isn't a place where battery and marital rape sometimes happen but where little else apparently does. Sick men don't simply molest their daughters, they operate in league with their wives to "breed" them for that purpose.

-- Donna Laframboise; The Princess at the Window; (in a critical explication of the Catharine MacKinnon, Gloria Steinhem et al tenets of misandric belief.)



MAN:...an obsolete life form... an ordinary creature who needs to be watched...a contradictory baby-man